Expectations

As mothers, wives, friends,& daughters we all have our own expectations! Whether our expectations be about ourselves or the people we interact with everyday, family and friends we set ourselves up for disappointment everyday. I know I set my expectations High on myself ,my children & husband. And I always get disappointed. With this said, I am going to try to set my expectations lower, not to have my goals or other things lowered in importance, however I will set myself up for less disappointment if my expectations are lowered.

Example: I will no longer expect my husband to know what I am thinking or feeling. He is a man and I guess from here on out I will just have to tell him, you girls know what I am talking about! He does not tell you your hair looks good once you have had it done or does not notice you have on a new outfit! These are things I expect him to notice, however more times than not he has never noticed and I of course get mad. NO MORE! I will tell him, (hopefully not vomiting while I do this) Honey, Do you like my hair???? Do you like my new shirt????? All I have to say is after I do this on my part he better say something good.

I could go on for days with expectations and why we are all upset or mad when they are not met. I am currently reading a book entitled: One Month to Live and in this book it talks about all sorts of stuff, forgiveness, expectations, what you leave behind and such. I am okay with the expectations and I think I can do this one, however when it comes to forgiveness I am having some trouble. There have been people that have been in my life at different times and are no longer in it or are in it however not like I think they should be. What I am getting at is this: I am having a hard time forgiving these people due to what they have done or said to me, the lies they have told or just trying to forgive them and move on in my own way, accepting them for who they are and nothing less. I guess that would come right back around to the expectation part of it. I may expect this person to do more than they do, so then I have resentment towards them for not doing what I expect of them. Confused yet??

Okay, I am going to get off of my soap box now. I am sure I will get back on it soon.

Motto for the day: Try to love people for who they are, not trying to change them and while all of that said, lower your expectations and you may have less disappointment in your life.